Nothing Ever Changes

       


             Feels pretty stupid even writing about it, why should I, knowing that nothing is ever going to change in this country. The Delhi gangrape saga is going on, with people protesting against it, demanding action against the accused all over India, and guess what, it still doesn't make any difference to the peoples mindsets, in fact the lack of action on such a huge issue has made criminal minds confident that they can commit the crime and get away with it. The reported cases of rapes have been on the ascendancy since the incident it seems, everyday the newspapers are filled with more and more similar incidents. 
    
          What is wrong with these people? I just happened to see that news reporter eve-teasing video aswell. That kinda settles it, seems everyone has now fixed their eyes for a chance? What the hell??? Whatever happened to our country all of a sudden? Maybe it has been going on all around without the knowledge of others, the actions might have been suppressed till now, but now the shocking reality of the mob is coming out. 

        Who is safe now? I guess not a single human born a female : a little baby, a baby girl , a teen , a lady , no one is safe anymore in this wretched country. I feel pretty ashamed to be a part of this country now, which was once a great civilisation that others looked up to. The culture has eroded with time, eclipsed by the wild wild west, in the name of modernisation. 


Here is something I just read which actually made me write this post :

‎4-year-old is latest rape victim in Kolkata


Amid the candlelight vigils and protest meetings being held almost on a daily-basis in different parts of the country, including Kolkata, in the wake of Delhi gangrape case, it seems that the social mindset about rapes have not changed.

Fearing “dire consequences”, it took a mother four days to complain to the police that her four-year-old daughter has been raped and assaulted by a youth. The complaint was lodged last Wednesday night at Kasba police station in south Kolkata after locals came to know about the incident and protested in front of the local police station.

According to police, the girl was allegedly raped on December 31 by 26-year-old Debabrata Das, who is distant relative of the victim’s family and had an access to the victim’s house. Das, a resident of Kumarpara, was arrested today.

“We have taken the victim for medical test. She has been tortured and assaulted. There are marks of assault on her face too. But her mother lodged the complaint after more than 48 hours had passed. She told us that she and her husband were threatened against lodging the complaint,” said a senior police officer.

However, locals alleged that the victim’s family members were given money to “suppress the incident”. Locals came to know about the incident after the victim fell ill on last Wednesday.

Doctors claimed that she had been assaulted physically.

Over 200 residents then demonstrated in front of Kasba police station demanding immediate arrest of Das. A group of women also reached the police station and demanded a written assurance from police about severe punishment for the accused.
When officials expressed their helplessness in giving such written assurance, the crowd turned violent. Suddenly, the situation spun out of control as they attacked police vehicles and pelted stones at policemen as well as mediapersons. At least, six vehicles were damaged. Police have arrested four persons on charges of rioting.


I still can't understand why Govt is still sleeping ? Can't we breath freely in open air for these devils ? I would like to know from u all what kind of punishment will u suggest for these rapists ? Wake up my frns , raise your voice for the right judgment.


So what do you think ? A 4-year old raped? WTF!!! How much more insane can people get? Seems like people are loosing control of their minds and bodies and just turning out into wild animals and hunting down their prey without any consideration. Inspite of all these protests going on, people still seem to be hungry for more. I friggin have no words to put this out on paper. Nothing ever changes. I knew it all along, though I still had a faint hope that atleast something may happen, guess I was wrong yet again. This country is going to the hounds, the deadly virus seems to be spreading widely and rapidly, hitting one state after another, the gangrape virus is on the move, injected by the Indian Governments muteness. Those corrupt leaders only speak of what women should do to avoid being raped than taking action against it. They blame it on the clothing, the walk in the park at night and so on, every Indian has a right, they seem to be stepping on it harshly. 

            I found too many articles about whats going on around India, right about now. The Delhi victim died, and I'm glad she doesn't have to bear this pain no longer. I can only pray that such incidents no longer occur, but I didn't realise that inspite of all this ruckus such incidents are going on all around even now. How shameless are they anyway? Do they have any moral senses or what, I doubt. Maybe they just take bribe from the accused and try to suppress the case or turn the case on its head against the victims, and this has been happening all over India for a long time now, turning the victim into the accused. 

              How can we change this trend of rapes from taking place? One thing is for sure, thats none of the accused in such crimes are afraid of the aftermath of the incident cause they know they can get away with what they do. Earlier when you misbehave badly to a girl or woman, we could ask them how they would feel it happened with their sisters or mothers, but alas , times have changed, even sisters and relatives aren't safe in their own houses anymore. 

        The picture I've posted is a banner stuck outside one of the companies in the IT park I work in. They took a resolve to do something about this, and am I glad to see it. See the response they have received, but a signature won't mean anything, there are lots of petitions filed, but seems like nothing is having any effect on the deaf ears of the Government. 

   If people really feel it from the heart, then we can surely bring about a change, for a change is needed to ensure the safety of the womenfolk in our country henceforth. If no action is taken, from here on we can expect newspapers to be filled with only rape reports daily and eventually the society will turn immune to rape and accept it as a necessary social evil. So I urge all of you to think about it and raise your voices, let yourself be heard, if not for your sake, atleast for the sake of your future child. 

 Nothing ever changes if you stay quiet and do nothing about it.
 Nothing ever changes if you think that it didn't happen to you, for you maybe next.

        

Unsafe India

   

              This is what I read, unfortunately read it only today cause I'm so freaking out of touch with worldly happenings these days, less Facebook-ing definitely has its after effects on daily life it seems.

The bus driver ram singh went out with his 6 friends
the girl and the guy was called by the driver and were given proper tickets ( the bus was a school bus with black curtains .. Not permitted for transport use ) the girl was 23 a very good student and wanted to reach dwarka mor.
After they got in , the guys hit a rod on the guys's head and threw him out , then raped the girl one by one which was moving continuously in the posh areas of delhi and ncr.
After raping her badly , one of them inserted a very long rod in her va**** which almost killed her and threw her out and ran away.

She was lying in the middle of the road hurt and nude.. Not even single person helped her or covered her for an hour.
When police came in no one helped them pick her up. They were just not interested at all.

The girl's va**** + small and large intestine is totally damaged and she cannot live a married or normal life. Doctor said " main bayan nahi kar sakta ki ussne kya kya zheela hai ... Bolte hue muzhe dard hota hai ". She has gone in coma 5 times from 16th dec. She is unconscious , critical and is still crying. The ribs are damaged as well.

That's the whole story
And that's what Delhi people are.
And her only fault was that she took a wrong bus

You have sisters , mothers , daughters and so many females at home.
Please don't sit and relax
Its not that small deal ... Its bout your families safety..

            And this is what happens in the capital city of our country. So many questions may arise in our minds. Like "What is wrong with those guys?" , "Are they so mentally retarded to go to such extremes?","How can any human be like this?" 
  
      Sadly, there is no point even wondering how they can be like this, cause they are.Not just them, there are lots of them out there like this, waiting for their opportunity to pounce on some unlucky girl out there, be it in broad daylight or after hours, be it all alone, or with a friend, whether you wear proper clothing or show-off minimal clothing, none of it makes any difference to the ones who are just poised on committing this deed to fulfil their inner desires or maybe some personal satisfaction. What makes them do it?? There can be many reasons, but the most important is definitely the Laws and Regulations in India. 

       The System is corrupt, in each and every level of the hierarchy, over 70% of the officials will be corrupt. This may be one of the silver arrows the accused maybe keeping in his quiver, which he knows is a sure shot escape route from the death knot. Looking back at the case of Kasab who killed so many innocent people and still wasn't hanged right away, but instead was kept in royal custody and given royal treatment before he was finally hanged after he celebrated anniversaries of his achievements. What do you expect from them? How do you expect them to treat a rape case, where the victim is alive? They can come up with reasoning beyond imagination to defend the accused and criticise the victims. 

       

           Different people have different views and different reasoning on the aforementioned incidents.
Here I'm quoting what one of my friends posted on Facebook.

I believe that the rise in rape cases these days is not because the rapists are taught to be rapists by their parents(yes every parent teach their child to be good) but the excessive consumerism that is prevailing in society...women are projected as sex objects in many movies/TVs/adverts like AXE,Condoms,lipsticks, bike adverts etc... even products like iPills are advertised very very aggressively. All this gives rise to consumerism and thus so much lust in the society...earlier too there were cases of rape but not so much...what is different from that time was that the people weren't actually provided with so much of lust..the entertainment mediums like radio and tv rarely had any such advertisements and even the movies were more about Platonic love and revenge etc...and even suggestive nudity was rare ..but now with this new era of Mahesh Bhatt kinda movies and cheap advertisement..this consumerism or "Bhogvadita" in people is increasing...leading to such things. 


         This may or may not play a role in rise in rape incidents in India making is very unsafe for women folk all over India. In fact, it may not have anything to do with the criminals at all,but one thing is for sure this is the trend and it is what attracts them. Advertisements are definitely made based on thorough market study, and its made appealing to the masses. So the people like what they see, and what they start to see now is getting more and more explicit with the passage of time.

      So as part of all this what are the women folk supposed to do? They know its unsafe, it never was- but its gotten worse now, to roam around late at night alone. They surely can to an extent keep themselves at home, but then times will come when they are alone and have something important to do, what can the do then? Just considering a small scenario, where a boss wants something to be done by the end of the day and the employee somehow wasted some time and got late, she has to finish her work or the next day her job is insecure. What do you expect her to do? She doesn't expect to get raped and tries to complete her work keeping in mind only her future - the job. If she thinks of the unsafe streets and keeps the work in pending will the boss be all ears and support her? I guess not. I was just considering a possible scenario, it can be anything. People don't like their freedoms to be cut down be it boy or girl, we are all humans after all.


       To fight and protest against all this all we can do, knowing that its all to deaf ears. If you ask the politician how would you feel if your daughter was the one who was in the incident, you may expect him/her to feel the pain, but guess what, you are wrong. I doubt there lies any hope for justice in this country now where a father raped his own child. So may be the case with them too, what if the same is happening and being suppressed? You never know the reality.


 Letting a rape happening and punishing the convicts is essential, more importantly letting it happen should be a priority and if capital punishment for convicts of all such incidents can reduce the rate then so be it. Let the words take life and let the punishments begin. People should fear the punishment and stop committing the crimes or even think about committing the crime.


Hope to see a safe India soon.

Marriage: A Distant Reality

               "Marriage you say? I don't want to get married!!!" That's how I respond when mom or dad tells randomly that its time to get you married.

              Back in those times, marriage was something regarded highly, or rather the most important turning point in one's life. I think a lot, random silly thoughts that arise in my mind out of nowhere. One of them is "Why am I alive? What is the point of living in this world?" . I have no answers to those questions that peep in my mind time and again, but one of my teachers have told me once, marriage is necessary, it determines the rest of your life. You are supposed to get married within a specific range of age, after which it may prove a bit too late considering the life events that may occur in the future.

             "Why should I get married? Can't I just live on like this?" I always wished my lifespan would be short, and everytime I keep wishing the world ends this year, the so called 2012 scenario, but its all a myth, nothing is gonna happen, that I'm sure. Anyway my teacher had this answer to my question, saying when you grow old, you need someone by your side to look after you, if you don't marry, there will be none to look out for you when you're weak and in your deathbed.


            So concluding from that, its like a wife's duty to look after her husband right? The previous generations surely did keep it that way, families existed with tighter bonds entwining them closer and keeping them together. No matter what problems or quarrels arose between them, they finally sorted it out and stayed together, if not for them then for the sake of their children.

              Times have changed, the generation gap is showing its signs. Marriages fail to co-exist anymore, like it used to be. Marriage that once used to be considered a sacred ritual binding two souls together for all eternity has become a mere childs play for the present generation. They are willing to get married and get divorced over the slightest of adjustment problems. No couple is perfect, and unless people adjust no relation can last long,sometimes sacrifices are necessary for a strong and healthy relation to exist, that doesn't seem to be the case now. No one is willing to sacrifice anything for the other. The once prestigious heritage and culture in eroding off quickly like a spreading wildfire. Small ego clashes end up with relations and marriages turn down on its head. No one is willing to adjust with their partners anymore.

                Now taking a deeper look at how stuff got worse. I'm neither supporting men nor women, both have their own flaws and play a significant part in this scenario. A couple of years ago, it used to be boys who used to be involved in multiple relations, that too simultaneously, but now girls are no better than them, in fact they have gotten worse.

                    A dedicated boyfriend or husband would be running night and day trying to make both ends meet, so that he and his lover can live a happy life, but the present generation has lost patience and in his absence may fall for another who has been waiting just for this opportunity. She ditches her now "Ex"-bf , and goes with her new one, and when he comes to know, how heartbroken would he be? Do they even think about that? Even present gen wives are going overboard, and if their husbands are away for quite a while, they may even force themselves into petty affairs, just cause they feel they ain't getting what they deserve, maybe even the husbands may do the same, in fact there maybe a lot of them who do it, but now its more evenly matched than in the past, when the husbands used to be ones who would stray off more.

                  Money and power can buy anything in this corrupt world, and if its a girl who has got em, then the probability rises further up. In fact women have the upper hand on a lot of stuff abroad, they get to keep their children and the husband who earned all the assets will loose them all to the wife, who is getting a divorce filed. Do they even care about their kids anymore? I guess not.

        Nobody is willing to understand their partners now-a-days. The world has turned out to be fast paced, and people have lost their patience and moral values.

             I know not, how this may infuriate you readers, but some of the afore mentioned experiences are based on real life stories of people I know. I can only hope someone understands where the future is heading to at this rate and what will happen to next generation kids who are already born with iPads and iPhones in their hands.

         All I could ever wish now is, to stay alive by my parents, and I don't need no marriage unless I find someone who is actually willing to understand me and bear with me and  my traits, but then again I'm pretty much sure that won't happen. So I hope to live on happily the way I am right now.

                  

I Had a Wish

When this began,
I had nothing to choose,
Than to follow the orders,
Forced on me

I had a wish,
That lay within,
Trying to force its way out,
Only to go unheard when it did

Time has passed,
And here I am,
Neither who I wanted to be,
Nor who they wanted me to be

I had a wish,
That was to do what I love,
I had that wish,
To enjoy what I did

Here I stand now,
An incomplete product,
Failing the tests put forth,
Like it was never meant for me

I knew my weakness,
I wanted to evade the hurdles,
But they set me up on the path,
Which I never wanted to take

Here I stand,
Gazing at the horizon,
Unable to change the past,
That determines the future spoilt

The questions are many,
The answers still untold,
But of them all stands tall this one,
Where will I end up at this rate?

Reflections

              Finally, I got it, a spark lost in this careless path that I've been cruising along with no turning back......
I can write again, or atleast I feel that I can. As the name itself reflects, this is about the reflections that I could see when I was in deep thought today. Do bear with me on all the silly mistakes I may be committing, now with that said , here goes.....

          I see it now, my own reflection that separates me from who I think I am and what I really am...

            "There is no such thing as a good human being", that is what I had put as my status message on Whatsapp, if you don't know what it is, its a one-year free mobile chat app,that has got all the basics right. So back to where I left off, a friend saw it and told , you are good. Hmm, let me think, why did I put that as a status? Was it to get appraisals from my friends? Ain't it true that we all like being praised? But that definitely didn't make any difference anyway cause I know I ain't, but I used to think so not so long back. I believed that I was good, and there would be none like me, or rather just a few like me and better than me. But how do I even qualify to be a good human being? Do I even do anything worthy of being so? No, I don't, then how the hell can I be a good person. There are a hell lot of people out there, who do good deeds, they need recognition.

            I can't even make a general statement on this, but then I used to think and think, and that was exactly the problem, I used to think and think alone, never act. I guess everyone must be thinking good stuff only in their minds, but the inability to act is what puts them along with the majority of people. If you don't take time to think it out about how what you do might make a difference you'll never do anything and will always remain a thinker like me. I don't think I'll change, at least not a sudden overhaul of nature, but I need to, that I know for sure.

           You are only as good as your worst, or so they say. And that just shows how you measure up with the rest. Who you are is only truly shown in the nature and behaviour you show to the people who stand beneath you. Its what actually shows how good you are. When I put all the facts together where do I stand? I'm only as good as you and the rest out there, or maybe even worse. I have no right to claim or even think I'm good, atleast I don't go about claiming that, but always used to feel so within me, but now that thought is fast degrading. I know I'm not worthy of being called a good human. I'ven't done anything that could be termed noble or an act of kindness. If only I could just put all my thoughts into action I would've felt a bit better.

              How many people actually help a stranger unless they ask for it? Not many I presume, or it maybe just how I feel from all that I've seen. But definitely if there is a girl in need, all boys around will be rushing to help er out, right? Atleast that's what I've seen, and that thought kind of prevents me from helping girls, cause that actually makes me think or feel guilty that I'm also doing it for the same reason only, and there have been a few instances where I've helped a few people and they have even Thanked me for that, and those instances actually make feel happy, and yeah they weren't girls.

            There are so many barriers within me and my mind that actually prevents me from doing a lot of stuff that I feel I should've. Its always been fear of something, that kept me away, and still is making me do so, over and over again. Last Friday was one such day, where I could've helped someone but I was reluctant to, fearing that my intuition may be wrong, but unfortunately it was right and I could've helped  them save time and money, but my shy nature of not mingling with strangers got the better of me and I didn't do a thing.

     There were this two people, a boy and a girl, they were in the same bus as me, but then when a certain stop arrived, I wondered why they weren't getting out of the bus, cause they were speaking Hindi and usually all of them would be going to the main city and not where this bus or my bus was heading. I just kept hoping they would ask me something just to clarify and then would tell them to get down, but it just didn't happen. When the conductor came and asked them if they were going to the Final Destination of the bus, they replied yes, but I thought I heard him say out soft, the name of the other place, but now that he had confirmed that he was going there, I felt all the more reluctant to ask him anything. And I certainly could make out that he was going somewhere in a hurry,but didn't exactly know where. And at the end, it so turned out that they took a detour and ended up in the wrong bus after all., and I was guilty of not helping them out, just cause I feared "What if they are going where they claim to be going?", "What would they feel if I ask them where they are going when its none of my business?" . These kind of thought actually create a dilemma within my mind, "To do or not to do?" , that is the question after all. If I had helped them I would've felt happy cause I helped them, but I din't and that raises a guilty conscience in me.

          And this so called me, is supposed to be good? Just cause I think good, doesn't make me good. I know I ain't, and people just randomly saying I'm won't actually make me good would it? I need to live up to the billing, if I were, but do I? Maybe someday I can hope to be as good as I wish to be.
But for now, the reflections that I saw of myself are far more significant, than the indeterministic future in which I may or may not exist.


                                            "Actions speak louder than words".