Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Unsafe India


              This is what I read, unfortunately read it only today cause I'm so freaking out of touch with worldly happenings these days, less Facebook-ing definitely has its after effects on daily life it seems.

The bus driver ram singh went out with his 6 friends
the girl and the guy was called by the driver and were given proper tickets ( the bus was a school bus with black curtains .. Not permitted for transport use ) the girl was 23 a very good student and wanted to reach dwarka mor.
After they got in , the guys hit a rod on the guys's head and threw him out , then raped the girl one by one which was moving continuously in the posh areas of delhi and ncr.
After raping her badly , one of them inserted a very long rod in her va**** which almost killed her and threw her out and ran away.

She was lying in the middle of the road hurt and nude.. Not even single person helped her or covered her for an hour.
When police came in no one helped them pick her up. They were just not interested at all.

The girl's va**** + small and large intestine is totally damaged and she cannot live a married or normal life. Doctor said " main bayan nahi kar sakta ki ussne kya kya zheela hai ... Bolte hue muzhe dard hota hai ". She has gone in coma 5 times from 16th dec. She is unconscious , critical and is still crying. The ribs are damaged as well.

That's the whole story
And that's what Delhi people are.
And her only fault was that she took a wrong bus

You have sisters , mothers , daughters and so many females at home.
Please don't sit and relax
Its not that small deal ... Its bout your families safety..

            And this is what happens in the capital city of our country. So many questions may arise in our minds. Like "What is wrong with those guys?" , "Are they so mentally retarded to go to such extremes?","How can any human be like this?" 
      Sadly, there is no point even wondering how they can be like this, cause they are.Not just them, there are lots of them out there like this, waiting for their opportunity to pounce on some unlucky girl out there, be it in broad daylight or after hours, be it all alone, or with a friend, whether you wear proper clothing or show-off minimal clothing, none of it makes any difference to the ones who are just poised on committing this deed to fulfil their inner desires or maybe some personal satisfaction. What makes them do it?? There can be many reasons, but the most important is definitely the Laws and Regulations in India. 

       The System is corrupt, in each and every level of the hierarchy, over 70% of the officials will be corrupt. This may be one of the silver arrows the accused maybe keeping in his quiver, which he knows is a sure shot escape route from the death knot. Looking back at the case of Kasab who killed so many innocent people and still wasn't hanged right away, but instead was kept in royal custody and given royal treatment before he was finally hanged after he celebrated anniversaries of his achievements. What do you expect from them? How do you expect them to treat a rape case, where the victim is alive? They can come up with reasoning beyond imagination to defend the accused and criticise the victims. 


           Different people have different views and different reasoning on the aforementioned incidents.
Here I'm quoting what one of my friends posted on Facebook.

I believe that the rise in rape cases these days is not because the rapists are taught to be rapists by their parents(yes every parent teach their child to be good) but the excessive consumerism that is prevailing in society...women are projected as sex objects in many movies/TVs/adverts like AXE,Condoms,lipsticks, bike adverts etc... even products like iPills are advertised very very aggressively. All this gives rise to consumerism and thus so much lust in the society...earlier too there were cases of rape but not so much...what is different from that time was that the people weren't actually provided with so much of lust..the entertainment mediums like radio and tv rarely had any such advertisements and even the movies were more about Platonic love and revenge etc...and even suggestive nudity was rare ..but now with this new era of Mahesh Bhatt kinda movies and cheap advertisement..this consumerism or "Bhogvadita" in people is increasing...leading to such things. 

         This may or may not play a role in rise in rape incidents in India making is very unsafe for women folk all over India. In fact, it may not have anything to do with the criminals at all,but one thing is for sure this is the trend and it is what attracts them. Advertisements are definitely made based on thorough market study, and its made appealing to the masses. So the people like what they see, and what they start to see now is getting more and more explicit with the passage of time.

      So as part of all this what are the women folk supposed to do? They know its unsafe, it never was- but its gotten worse now, to roam around late at night alone. They surely can to an extent keep themselves at home, but then times will come when they are alone and have something important to do, what can the do then? Just considering a small scenario, where a boss wants something to be done by the end of the day and the employee somehow wasted some time and got late, she has to finish her work or the next day her job is insecure. What do you expect her to do? She doesn't expect to get raped and tries to complete her work keeping in mind only her future - the job. If she thinks of the unsafe streets and keeps the work in pending will the boss be all ears and support her? I guess not. I was just considering a possible scenario, it can be anything. People don't like their freedoms to be cut down be it boy or girl, we are all humans after all.

       To fight and protest against all this all we can do, knowing that its all to deaf ears. If you ask the politician how would you feel if your daughter was the one who was in the incident, you may expect him/her to feel the pain, but guess what, you are wrong. I doubt there lies any hope for justice in this country now where a father raped his own child. So may be the case with them too, what if the same is happening and being suppressed? You never know the reality.

 Letting a rape happening and punishing the convicts is essential, more importantly letting it happen should be a priority and if capital punishment for convicts of all such incidents can reduce the rate then so be it. Let the words take life and let the punishments begin. People should fear the punishment and stop committing the crimes or even think about committing the crime.

Hope to see a safe India soon.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Marriage: A Distant Reality

               "Marriage you say? I don't want to get married!!!" That's how I respond when mom or dad tells randomly that its time to get you married.

              Back in those times, marriage was something regarded highly, or rather the most important turning point in one's life. I think a lot, random silly thoughts that arise in my mind out of nowhere. One of them is "Why am I alive? What is the point of living in this world?" . I have no answers to those questions that peep in my mind time and again, but one of my teachers have told me once, marriage is necessary, it determines the rest of your life. You are supposed to get married within a specific range of age, after which it may prove a bit too late considering the life events that may occur in the future.

             "Why should I get married? Can't I just live on like this?" I always wished my lifespan would be short, and everytime I keep wishing the world ends this year, the so called 2012 scenario, but its all a myth, nothing is gonna happen, that I'm sure. Anyway my teacher had this answer to my question, saying when you grow old, you need someone by your side to look after you, if you don't marry, there will be none to look out for you when you're weak and in your deathbed.

            So concluding from that, its like a wife's duty to look after her husband right? The previous generations surely did keep it that way, families existed with tighter bonds entwining them closer and keeping them together. No matter what problems or quarrels arose between them, they finally sorted it out and stayed together, if not for them then for the sake of their children.

              Times have changed, the generation gap is showing its signs. Marriages fail to co-exist anymore, like it used to be. Marriage that once used to be considered a sacred ritual binding two souls together for all eternity has become a mere childs play for the present generation. They are willing to get married and get divorced over the slightest of adjustment problems. No couple is perfect, and unless people adjust no relation can last long,sometimes sacrifices are necessary for a strong and healthy relation to exist, that doesn't seem to be the case now. No one is willing to sacrifice anything for the other. The once prestigious heritage and culture in eroding off quickly like a spreading wildfire. Small ego clashes end up with relations and marriages turn down on its head. No one is willing to adjust with their partners anymore.

                Now taking a deeper look at how stuff got worse. I'm neither supporting men nor women, both have their own flaws and play a significant part in this scenario. A couple of years ago, it used to be boys who used to be involved in multiple relations, that too simultaneously, but now girls are no better than them, in fact they have gotten worse.

                    A dedicated boyfriend or husband would be running night and day trying to make both ends meet, so that he and his lover can live a happy life, but the present generation has lost patience and in his absence may fall for another who has been waiting just for this opportunity. She ditches her now "Ex"-bf , and goes with her new one, and when he comes to know, how heartbroken would he be? Do they even think about that? Even present gen wives are going overboard, and if their husbands are away for quite a while, they may even force themselves into petty affairs, just cause they feel they ain't getting what they deserve, maybe even the husbands may do the same, in fact there maybe a lot of them who do it, but now its more evenly matched than in the past, when the husbands used to be ones who would stray off more.

                  Money and power can buy anything in this corrupt world, and if its a girl who has got em, then the probability rises further up. In fact women have the upper hand on a lot of stuff abroad, they get to keep their children and the husband who earned all the assets will loose them all to the wife, who is getting a divorce filed. Do they even care about their kids anymore? I guess not.

        Nobody is willing to understand their partners now-a-days. The world has turned out to be fast paced, and people have lost their patience and moral values.

             I know not, how this may infuriate you readers, but some of the afore mentioned experiences are based on real life stories of people I know. I can only hope someone understands where the future is heading to at this rate and what will happen to next generation kids who are already born with iPads and iPhones in their hands.

         All I could ever wish now is, to stay alive by my parents, and I don't need no marriage unless I find someone who is actually willing to understand me and bear with me and  my traits, but then again I'm pretty much sure that won't happen. So I hope to live on happily the way I am right now.


I Had a Wish

When this began,
I had nothing to choose,
Than to follow the orders,
Forced on me

I had a wish,
That lay within,
Trying to force its way out,
Only to go unheard when it did

Time has passed,
And here I am,
Neither who I wanted to be,
Nor who they wanted me to be

I had a wish,
That was to do what I love,
I had that wish,
To enjoy what I did

Here I stand now,
An incomplete product,
Failing the tests put forth,
Like it was never meant for me

I knew my weakness,
I wanted to evade the hurdles,
But they set me up on the path,
Which I never wanted to take

Here I stand,
Gazing at the horizon,
Unable to change the past,
That determines the future spoilt

The questions are many,
The answers still untold,
But of them all stands tall this one,
Where will I end up at this rate?